Editorial Review:

Product Description:
Men's Health(r) editor-in-chief David Zinczenko, the New York Times best-selling author of The Abs Diet, has applied his highly popular voice and insightful research methods to solving one of the great challenges of the day-helping women understand men. From the first moment they meet, through every stage of courtship to the inevitable conclusion-success or breakup-Zinczenko outlines with vivid, compassionate, and irreverent detail exactly what goes on in the minds of men and how women can use that knowledge to their advantage.









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Rating: - I was really looking forward to learning something from this book..
But I was disappointed. I'm in my early twenties and multiracial, if that may help you in understanding where I'm coming from. Though I'm young, I've been divorced and remarried within that time, so needless to say, I really wanted to understand men, the good and the bad. With this book, (which I bought hardcover because I didn't want to wait the extra few weeks for the paperback, what a waste) all I felt I got was excuses.

I'm married to a very good man and this book, doesn't apply to him at all. However, it excused every bad thing I couldn't stand about my ex. Maybe I should've looked for a book written by a psychologist, not by a men's magazine editor. The thing is though, David Zinczenko, writes an excellent weekly column that I used to read via Yahoo. This is why I picked up his book in the first place. I figured it would be entertaining and informative, instead it lacked insight and offered no real advice to women. Who did you want to read this? Because the questions and answers went something like this to me.

Q. Why does my husband/boyfriend never want to go over to dinner at my parents?

A. Well most men don't like situations in which they might be uncomfortable, it's your job to be understanding because this is how a man is.

What? Are you serious? That's the way a man is and that's just is. Caveman ooga booga, testosterone, penis, football, blah blahblah.
Maybe the answers in this book were acceptable to most of you, (men I'm hoping), but for someone genuinely trying to understand a man, it fell way short.

I was looking for more in depth answers, maybe based on some studies, psychological maybe, doctor approved maybe? For example, something interesting I've learned within the past year is that men need sex to feel attached to a woman, therefore it's in a woman's best interest in a relationship to make sure they have a healthy sex life because it's an emotional need as well as a physical need. Helpful, informative, creates understanding, not just breed frustration.

I will say one new annoyance of mine in this journey in trying to understand men. One theme in this book and I've heard elsewhere in television, is the issue of masturbation. In general, it seems as though according to the "experts" women are not allowed to have any negative feelings regarding the frequency of their men's masturbation, no matter if it makes sense or not. According to these people it seems to me, I should just let him have his time, anytime of the day, whether we've had sex recently or not, shutup and just let it happen.

I thought we were done with such blatant inequality in relationships. I want to see the female counterpart of this book and if it's just as biased, then I'm just alone in the world as a person who wants true understanding between the sexes.

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Rating: - Very informative book for women about men
I bought this book for my wife in order to help her understand the mind of a man. She doesn't seem to get it after 20 years of marriage. However, I read it first just to make sure that it applied to me. I was very pleased with the book. It was "on the money" overall. There were a couple of sections that didn't apply to me, but probably once did, e.g., the section on deciphering a man's pickup line.

The material was presented in a very practical way, however, it didn't get into much depth. Depth may not be necessary as long as a woman can get a general idea of the mind of men. What I mean is that this book doesn't deal with psychology. It just gives you practical insight into how guys think.

I did hope that the book would cover specific topics for married men. Most of the examples and illustrations seemed to involve boyfriend/girlfriend relationships in my opinion -- though I wasn't necessarily keeping count. It just felt that way to me.

If you are looking for a book to give to your wife so that she could understand men better and therefore understand you, then I highly recommend this book. I was really anxious to read it when I first got it just to see how accurate it was from my own thinking and I was pleased that it really did describe me and my thinking patterns. I guess that means that I'm a typical guy. Whoa!

Now hopefully my wife will read it. The ultimate goal is to improve our relationship. Not that we have a bad marriage or anything like that. There are many issues that persist that I feel could be resolved if my wife just understood how I think so that she would hopefully be able to communicate with me more effectively. I would like to do the same for her. Again. This was a very good book.

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Rating: - MEN DON'T THINK THE WAY I THOUGHT THEY DID
I found a few revelations in this book about what men want and need. I thought I already knew that, but I didn't. You'll have to read the book to find out what they are. Personally, I believe men and women would do a lot better with each other if they didn't think so much and just did what comes naturally. Romance, love and sex aren't really all that complicated. You can make it as simple or as complicated as you want to. I'm pretty sure there is one thing men want, and that is oral sex. Women not only want oral sex, but a large majority of them need it in order to orgasm. Here's a book that will answer that need for both men and women: Was that an earthquake? The Sensuous Couple's (Flip Over) Guide to Seismic Oral Sex. It's a fun flip over book, with everything you need to know about fellatio on one side and everything you need to know about cunnilingus on the other side.

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Rating: - ehhh
I was disappointed, it is not very specific in regards to men, love or sex. I was hoping for a good book like, "What Men Want" by the three professional men. This book is just way too general, although he throws in an occasional statistic. Kind of funny, but light on specific and applicable information. I read it in one sitting. Go for the other book- it's excellent!

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Rating: - Needs retitled
Every page of every section has something focused on the sex issue, overkill. Definitely not geared toward anyone already married. Although it has some very good tidbits of info, doesn't really fulfill what it promises.